To all my sheltered friends who are currently in limbo and deciding whether to take that leap of faith or not (DO IT!), here are a few things I’ve come to realize in my journey towards 100% independence. You’re welcome.
- Household chores are a real thing.
Growing up with help was something I took for granted. Not to sound snooty or anything, but that’s something pretty common in the Philippines — having live-in house helpers to do the cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc. So, imagine the shock it was to my system when I had to do all those things by myself. Yup, #thestruggleisreal. But throughout time, I’ve learned that certain household chores are very therapeutic for me. What are they? Mopping and washing dishes. I dunno, maybe it has something to do with the fact that it has water involved, what with me being an Aquarian (LOL just kidding), but it’s definitely something I enjoy. Forget sweeping and cooking (ugh, cooking!) though… Those two things bring more stress than anything else. #IJustCant Bottom-line is, household chores DO exist (for all my sheltered friends out there (you know who you are)) but they’re not all that bad.
- Paying rent and bills suck.
Yup, gone are the days when I could just freely spend money on random shopping sprees. Now, it’s all about adult responsibilities — rent and electricity bills. While this may suck big time, I’ve gathered that you do learn several things – living within your means, downsizing, and saving mother earth (no more leaving the aircon on for 24hrs).
- It gets lonely.
Lastly, something a little more serious. Living alone gets lonely at times. When you’re in a foreign country with no family or childhood friends to surround yourself with, it can get tough… especially in certain situations. Going through a heartache but don’t have your best girlfriends around so you can ugly cry and drink your sorrow away? Waiting 12 hours because your cousin is on the other side of the world and sleeping when you’re just bursting to tell her everything (and I mean E-VE-RY-THING) but can’t? Yeah, it’s hard. But that’s when you come out of your shell and make new friends. Good friends.
To sum it all up, living alone and being independent isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Challenges and reality will slowly creep in, but you know what? It ‘s because of these that you’ll learn, grow and most importantly, truly get to know yourself and your limitations. So get out into the real world and start living! It’ll be the best thing you’ll ever do for yourself.
Peace, Love and Lipgloss